So you’re ready to date… Where do you start? How do you meet women that you are interested in?
In the sea of dating apps and advice out there these days, things can get confusing…
Do you go to Tinder or a shopping mall or a coffee shop or a grocery store or something else altogether to meet women you like?
While there may seem like there’s a ton of options out there and the process can feel overwhelming, at the end of the day there’s really only 3 ways to meet someone new.
Here we’ll go over what those ways are and the pros and cons of each.
The "Cold Approach"
The “cold approach” is when you meet someone completely new that you likely have no previous history with or connections to who you saw as you were going about your day.
For many men, the concept of going up to a complete stranger and see how you get along can be both alluring and intimidating.
After all if you saw a stranger who piqued your interest as you were going about your day, would you feel comfortable going up to them and beginning a conversation?
“Cold approach” is a great way for guys to get going, especially if they just want more experience and fun with talking to women. The true beauty of cold approach is that this style falls in line with living an abundant life…
Imagine walking down the street, seeing a woman who really captures your attention and having the confidence and capability to walk up to her, begin a conversation to see if there’s a spark, and to know how to move the interaction from complete strangers to a first date and beyond…
Once a man embodies this reality, his life will fundamentally change. He will start having more compatible women show up in his life and the engagement with these women will feel natural and easy.
And now we hit the trending way to meet people…
Facebook Dating, Tinder, OKCupid, Hinge, Bumble and who knows what else will exist 10 minutes after I post this are giving us the freedom to meet in a way that’s never existed before.
I first learned to talk to women with “cold approach.” Then I got introduced to Tinder back in it’s early days and struggled immensely before figuring out what worked and what didn’t.
With enough time, I started to notice the common trends in how women messaged and wrote about their lives, I was able to develop a streamlined process for messaging, setting up dates, and the overall relationship process.
Digital is a great supplement to engaging with people in real life, but if it’s all a guy does, a guy can become detached from real interaction and feel reliant on his phone to have amazing women in his life.
In Social Circles
A social circle is a group of like-minded people who get together or do things together.
It can be less formal, like a group of friends. Or it can be more formal like an association, work, or a class.
Social circles are fantastic. They can give you so much more than just a date. Before the era of digital dating, social circles was the primary way to meet a partner…
Common social circles included work, a class, and interest groups.
The interesting thing I find with social circles is that it’s easy for a socially adept guy to flourish in a social circle… especially in the digital dating age.
In fact–what I’ve seen with guys I’ve helped is–it’s easier now than ever for a guy with basic social skills and a plan to get dates through social circles because most people aren’t too good socially anymore.
Where to Start...
Any of these three ways will work with meeting women for possible dates. Where you start is up to you.
All of these options work and the big question is…
What naturally fits for you? And what’s the easiest place to start?
For a guy that has taken good photos and works a lot, digital dating might be a no-brainer.
For a guy who loves meeting new people and has no problem interacting with strangers, the world is your playground and go wherever the type of women you are looking for might be.
The biggest message (cliche as it may be) is… get the hell out there! Start engaging in some conversations!
And if all of this is exciting but you still are feeling lost, schedule a strategy session and you and I can talk in depth about how to get you where you want in dating.